“Some days, doing the best we can may still fall short of what we would like to be able to do, but life isn’t perfect on any front-and doing what we can with what we have is the most we should expect of ourselves or anyone else.“Mr. Rogers
Raising kids is the most triggering work that we will ever do. Nothing will bring out the bumps and bruises of our own childhoods; nothing will so expose us to our own hopes, fears and frustrations; and nothing will force us to confront our demons like becoming a parent.
I believe that when we know better we can do better and that we also need (and deserve) help from healing partners — friends, loved ones, healthy family members and community helpers — who will support us towards growth, understanding and joy. That’s why I built this site.
Deciding to be a different kind of parent takes a lot of bravery. My commitment is to lovingly support you in your decision to take on the challenging work of becoming the parent (and person) you are meant to be.
- If you had parents who were overbearing, you might worry about being overbearing or about swinging too far in the opposite direction to being neglectful.
- If you had parents who were neglectful, you might worry about fostering independence without making your kids feel abandoned.
- If you had parents who were explosive or depressed or anxious, you might worry about appropriately managing your own feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety.
But You are Not Your Mother (or father or caregiver). You get to write your own script and I will help you do it without judgment and with absolute belief in your great parenting ability. My program is not just about how to parent effectively (getting kids to bed, getting chores done, etc.) but about the potential for parenting to be transformative — to bring us to our best selves, our most loving selves, and our most contented and confident selves.
It’s not easy to break family patterns, to upend generational trauma, and to give your children the chances you didn’t have but the fact that you’re here, reading this message proves to me that you have what it takes to do things differently. It is my passion and my joy to work with struggling parents like you.
I believe in you, absolutely. You have the power to do things differently.
I’ve been working with families for the past thirty years. I’ve been a preschool teacher, a childcare site director, a family case manager, an editor at a national parenting magazine, and a counselor in private practice working with parents and kids. I love struggling parents! And that’s why my work has always been centered on supporting families.
I have a post-graduate certificate in Infant and Toddler Mental Health through Arcadia University and have completed the PSI and 2020 Mom Professional Maternal Mental Health Certificate Training. I have additional training in play therapy, child abuse, domestic violence, mediation, infertility and adoption issues.
I have two kids — one grown, one nearly — and my work has been informed by my own challenges, grief, growth and joy as a parent and a daughter.