Did you lack role models for the way you want to raise your kids?
Are you struggling to be the parent you were meant to be?
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The You Are Not Your Mother membership site is built for parents like you who are committed to breaking family patterns of dysfunction.
If you’ve longed to find a healing community where you will get support without judgment, information that fits your unique family, and opportunities for greater growth and connection, you’re in the right place!
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A site for brave parents who reject harmful family traditions for the good of their kids AND themselves
This membership program is not just about how to parent effectively (getting kids to bed, getting chores done, etc.) but about the potential for parenting to be transformative — to bring us to our best selves, our most loving selves, and our most contented and confident selves. This is big work and it’s hard work but you don’t have to do it alone. It is my passion and my privilege to work with struggling parents like you.

Our growing community offers:
- Coaching & support via private message and our site message boards
- Workshops and courses to take at your own pace
- Expert Ask Me Anything events on a variety of topics
- Live Office Hours where we will meet to talk about what you're learning and what you're still struggling with
- Weekly journal prompts to inspire, encourage and dig in deep
- Supportive peers who understand, hold you (lovingly) accountable and cheer you on
Get instant access to an ever-growing list of classes included with your membership:
- Problem Solving Parenting
- Anxious Kids 101
- Managing Anger Towards Our Kids
- Nitty Gritty Child Development
- How Change Works
- BookClub Workshops
- And so much more!

The first 30 Days of your membership are absolutely FREE
Creating positive change in your life should be as stress-free as possible, which is why I make it easy for you to test drive the site 100% without any risk.
Sign-up and spend the next 30 days checking out the classes, chatting in the groups, and attending the Office Hours. If you decide the site is not for you just go to your profile and click “cancel” within the first 30 days and your card will NOT be charged.


If you had parents who were overbearing...
you might worry about being overbearing or about swinging too far in the opposite direction to being neglectful.
If you had parents who were neglectful...
you might worry about fostering independence without making your kids feel abandoned.
If you had parents who were explosive or depressed or anxious...
you might worry about appropriately managing your own feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety.
If you are struggling, you belong here.
If you secretly worry that everyone else knows how to be a parent and that you'll never figure it out then you are in the right place!
We all have the capacity to break the cycles that we were raised with and become the parents we were meant to be.
Through our work in the community, you will learn how your past is influencing your present, how to confront the negative messages you’ve been carrying, and how to replace those messages with calm, confidence and contentment. I will give you a clear system for choosing the right parenting tools for your unique family and give you the supports to consistently respond to the ordinary and extraordinary challenges of being a parent. Plus you will find friendships that will support you along the way.

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The price goes up in February when our mobile app launches!
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- Price goes up to $55 when the app launches!
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Note: Are you receiving Medicaid, Medicare, food stamps or WIC? Contact me by filling out this form to get a special sliding scale membership

"Wait. What is a membership?"
A membership is any business that has a flat fee to access their products or services. Netflix is a membership and most gyms operate as memberships. You pay a monthly or annual fee and you receive what products or services the membership offers. In this case the flat monthly, quarterly or annual fee gives you access to everything I’m offering through the site. That includes: Courses (you take them online at your own pace); office hours (offered on Zoom); groups and forums; Ask Me Anything events; journal prompts; and other features to promote your growth and learning around dismantling family patterns of dysfunction. You do not need to sign any contracts and there are no hidden fees. Your credit card is run through the secure Stripe processors and I never have access to it. You can cancel your membership at any time and don’t need to worry about going through any weird rabbit holes or customer service blackholes to do it. You just login, go to your profile and press cancel. You’ll continue to have access to the site for the duration of the time for which you’ve already paid.
This membership is for you if:
The membership asks you to be vulnerable, thoughtful and honest with yourself. If you’re into self-growth and self-responsibility, you will love it!
The only thoughts, feelings and behavior that you have any control over is your own. Once you start addressing your own well being and functioning you will see real change happen not just with you but with those around you.
You recognize the limits of the membership and take responsibility for your own mental health. (If you need help finding the right provider, please feel free to reach out to me and I will do what I can to help.)
This program may not be for you if:
This program offers big change not quick fixes. Sure, I’ll share tips that will make your life easier but I know that the best solutions to parenting problems come from teaching you how to tap into and trust your inherent wisdom.
While the membership offers lots of great parenting support and some advice, I work with the assumption that the answers lie in our relationship to ourselves and our children. You will come away with a better understanding of what makes your child tick and confidence to use that understanding to build better behavior.
This membership should not become another stressor in your life. If you don’t have room for it right now, don’t worry. It’ll be here when you do.
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